Family time…


Oh yeah – it’s a long weekend and we can spend time with the family…

Away from the office…

Can’t get any better that this…

Bored

Bored

So what do you do with all these people? Do you go somewhere and just splash some money on them? That would show them that you care about them…

What do you get out of it though?

Will you end up feeling appreciated?

Really?

Confused

Confused

In this modern era, with TV’s, computers, smart phones and mobile game devices, how do you break through to them? What can you do to make them see that you really care?

As amazing as this may sound – I will tell you a secret…

Come closer…

Magic

Magic

You need to communicate love to other people; not respect, trust, honesty or loyalty…

NOOOOOOO!!!!

That stuff belongs at work…

This is your family; you can show them something completely different, something they deserve…

If you do this right, you may get some of it back, and I can promise you that it is the most rewarding feeling a human can experience…

What am I talking about?

LOVE

Family - Love

Family - Love

So just how does one communicate love? What is the secret…?

Enter Dr. Gary Chapman. This amazing guy has unlocked the secret to communicating the emotion of love to other people. He has written a bunch of books (my favourite is – The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate) explaining just how to do this…

But this is a blog, you don’t have the time to read a whole book, and you need the results quick…

Language 1 – Quality Time

Simple explanation, find a way to sit down and chat with each child.

It may seem hard at first, you know but if you can just shut up and listen to what they have to say… You may find to your amazement, that they have stuff to tell you…

Then the spouse… Look into their eyes… Laugh a little… Hint that tonight when everybody is asleep….

Guys, dance with her… Girls, get that flirt on…

Switch the TV off and take out a board game…

Read the bed-time story… It is the type of thing that a child cannot forget…

Language 2 – Gifts

Yup, you can buy affection… I thought you knew… And if you can’t buy it, you may have to rent some…

Don’t now go and get the pony, the car or the engagement ring… Get something that says you care… This may require that you will have to remember what they like…

If you give that boy a comic book, the girl an awesome cd and the kid some bubbles… you may just end up surprised…

Ok the wife wants flowers… Get a bouquet of the flowers that she likes…

For the husband… the DVD of the sports that he enjoys… or if you are younger than a 100 years old, get some interesting nighties… Give it to him, not to wear, to help you put it on after the shower…

Language 3 – Acts of Service

Guys get your but out of bed early and make her some breakfast… Make a bed… Help with the dishes… It won’t kill you…

Girls, NEVER underestimate the value of food in a man’s life… Make him something special…

Kids always need help with drawings… they will accept any action where you submit to their priorities…

Mot hers can help teenage daughters with make-up and clothes…

Teenage boys always need help with some project… Build a small nuclear device…

Language 4 – Physical Touch

Couples… If you can make it out of the bedroom, show your children that their parents love one another… Give each other a hug, a cuddle and a passionate kiss… Kids require this as an example and it forms part of their security framework…

Lovers can add spice like the brush past, the “accidental” finger touch when you hand one another stuff…

Kids of all ages thrive on hugs, kisses and playful tickles… If you have a kid younger than 35, tickle and play with them…

Kick the ball, tackle them, drink tea with your daughter, sit on the grass and look at the stars… They will cuddle up…

Language 5 – Words of Affirmation

Tell them that you love them… (Yeah I know it does not say that in the book…) They need to hear it…

Tell your wife just how beautiful she still is, that she is amazing, that you are proud of her and that you miss her when you are away…

Husbands need to hear that they are still attractive, strong and worthy of praise and admiration too…

Kids perform at school, sports, cultural and other activities… Tell them that they are doing well…

Most important of all communicate as effectively as you can to everybody that you love them without reserve – NOTHING in this world will stop you from continuing to love them…

Guys, whisper in her ear… Good things…

Girls, show the world that he is the one and then you tell him – publicly…

Now stop reading this and go love that family of yours…

Loving Family

Loving Family

Please share and comment as much as you can… I will get back to you AFTER the weekend…

Love Ya!!

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3 thoughts on “Family time…

  1. Dear Anton,

    Your expanatory reflections are facts, too few will ever engage with consitancy. But they are pure beauty, when engaged even slightly…

    Very finely expressed in print… Congrats!
    Russ

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