Living with a set of values…

Values are those things that drive our behaviour and decision processes based on a set of rules collected throughout your life.

Some values are drummed into us by our parents, others by society en if we are lucky we get to decide on some for ourselves.

Herewith the “formal” definition:

Value (personal and cultural)

A personal or cultural value‘ is an absolute or relative ethical value, the assumption of which can be the basis for ethical action. A value system is a set of consistent values and measures. A principal value is a foundation upon which other values and measures of integrity are based. Those values which are not physiologically determined and normally considered objective, such as a desire to avoid physical pain, seek pleasure, etc., are considered subjective, vary across individuals and cultures and are in many ways aligned with belief and belief systems. Types of values include ethical/moral value, doctrinal/ideological (religious, political) values, social values, and aesthetic values. It is debated whether some values which are not clearly physiologically determined are intrinsic such as altruism and whether some such as acquisitiveness should be valued as vices or virtues. Values have typically been studied in sociology; anthropology; social psychology; moral philosophy and business ethics.




When we live our normal lives we encounter influences, people, ideas, books and movies that pressure us into questioning some of these values. This I can tell you is not a bad thing

We all get told that we should live our lives to the fullest, have some balance, grow, be assertive, be proactive, be a go-getter….

That is a lot of things to be… and if we have to be all these things at the same time…

I have always maintained that we should do something every day that would make (or have made) your grandmother proud. This is based on the belief that in most societies grandmothers represent the cornerstone of what is right, ethical, pure and morally correct. We also live in a world where a mother-in-law is seen as a villain because the “meddle” meaning, they try to instil values on a couple that is in the process of finding out what their shared values are.

So it would seem that the value thing is pretty important…



The best way I can describe values is to see it as the spine or backbone of our emotions, responses to emotions and therefore behaviour.

Formal Dress

Formal Dress


From the definition above we can also see that values are complex in themselves as they address different aspects of our lives, but can also originate from various different origins.

The simplest example of this would be how we dress.


These are all examples of what are considered formal dresses. We can see that the age, occasion, geography, history, religion and yes the specific colour of the season has a distinct influence on what we dress. What is seen as socially acceptable, what is sexy and fashionable all contribute to what we will wear… something may even be beautiful to look at, but you will not be caught dead in it…

So our personal values exist, and if we acknowledge them, understand them and learn to explore them, we may find that the truest of all rules will become clear.

You are the only person that knows who you are.

Be yourself – everybody else is already taken.

If you can explore your personal values, separate your values them from the values of other people and recognise yourself in this process:

You may just be the biggest gift you will ever give yourself.

Please share, like, + and comment on this… Communication is a team sport… 😉

Love – Light – Happiness – Joy


7 thoughts on “Living with a set of values…

  1. Your work in print, is fundamentally all true, and very explicitly well done. My article, attempts to roll up the myriad of distinct value sources under one common denominator, and that is the fundamental value of the “Golden Rule”. Again, as I said “Integrity” can be either bad or good, and the only measure I can assess for the good to be manifest. Is by way of the “Golden Rule”. It molds to all forms of culture, fad, or religious belief systems.

    If we only lived by this single mode of operation, the horror the world invokes upon itself, would nearly cease.

    Cheers to you for your outstanding work… You are a kindred friend in kind…
    Russ (It Only Takes One Thing)

    • Hi Russ,

      Thank you for the positive response and the compliment. I tried to read your blog but only received a notice that it is a protected blog.

      I have requested access…

      I try to communicate in the realm of principle… If something is true for all values it is subjected to; you can almost be certain that it is a principle…

      Hope you have a fantastic day….

  2. Hello Anton,
    I am new at on this site, and have no intention to block anyone. I hope you have access now. If not would you please advise…
    Thank You as well,

  3. Pingback: Values and ethics (actually, all about values really) | Theattitudequeen's Blog

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