I have made an interesting discovery…
Chaos happens to all of us at some point. In my case my eldest son fell ill at school… This entailed taking him to hospital and then “subjecting” to the external forces (hospital staff) that seemed to control our lives…
What was amazing was just how calm I remained throughout this mission. Usually I do not take kindly to disorder, confusion or chaos…
That is when it hit me…..
Because I was concerned for the health of my child (uppermost in my mind) I was willing to accept the different sources of chaos that we were subjected to. We were willing to wait to see a doctor, wait for the diagnosis to be confirmed (various tests) and then simply accepted what they told us to do next.
Once this was completed, it is like we could take back control of our lives and continue as normal.
So where is the life lesson?
It would seem that we as humans can accept and embrace some level of chaos in our lives as long as there are a few things present:
- Higher Purpose – Some motivation is required to enable us to deal with the stresses that are inherent in chaos. To this end we need to be able to understand why we are subjecting ourselves to the chaos.
- Time Frame – We seem to be able to digest chaos if we can delimit it within a specific time-based restriction. In this case we both realised that we could spend a few hours at the hospital, but that we would not be required to be there until the evening.
- Acceptance – We were able to hand over control of our lives to people who obviously knew better than us about how to deal with the situation. We were tolerant of those who we could distinguish were better equipped than us for the task at hand.
- Patience – We were forced to accept that this situation would take as long as it takes, but were aware that each step required had a “ticking clock” attached to it where we could judge when it was taking too long. If a step was completed much quicker than the “allowed time” we were willing to carry over some time to the next task.
- Submission – Strangely enough it was more tolerant when we did things exactly as prescribed. It made us feel like we “did our part” and did not award the opportunity for others to use our behaviour or actions as an excuse to prolong the situation.
- Anticipation – We looked forward to the moment when the situation will be resolved without fail. We could see ourselves regaining control and “walking free” with the added benefit of expecting him to feel better as well.
- Attitude – We were constantly positive that things will work out in such a way that it will be to our benefit in the long run.
To the concerned citizens out there – he will live!!! He is still a bit under the weather but he will make a full recovery.
So it seems that we can tolerate some chaos. It might even be good for us…
So next time life happens, smile, bear it…
Have a happy day