In this post I will provide the answers to many questions:
What does love mean? Where does it come from? Where does love fit in? Is love relevant in a work / friendship / social setting? How can I get love? How will I recognise love? What is love supposed to “look” like?
This post is part of a journey. It started with Love – what do you think it is? where we looked at the different kinds of love, Management – Do you need Love, Care and Trust? where we looked at its function in the working environment.
In Love – Where does it belong? we discovered that love has a place in our lives and we “use” it to gain different results depending on where we are in terms of our life journey.
Shocking Revelation – Stop the Presses
In all the variants, permutations and different applications that we have encountered with regards to love in this series one thing became clear – Love is the result of something else.
Yup – Love follows on a cold hard decision that you have to or have made. The level you have decided to commit to something is the level to which you can love someone, something or allow yourself in a situation.
Let that sink in…….
If we look at the pictures above, we will see that a friend of mine has to commit to the caring of his newborn child UNCONDITIONALLY. That means that he has to be able to forgive and forget almost anything that this child can do to him throughout his lifetime. Once the commitment is established – the love is simply there for the taking and experiencing.
Marriage is exactly the same. Two people vow to commit themselves to unexplainable torture and then come out on the other side – forgiven. They expect to be able to undergo significant amounts of hardship together within a simple premise – each will commit him or herself to being there once the hardship has passed.
Business and friendship follows suit. Each party will commit to a level that is acceptable to the other in a mutually beneficial way. This will last for as long as all the parties experience the agreed level of commitment from the other parties.
People don’t leave jobs because they want more money; no they leave jobs because they need more commitment (love) from the organisation. They leave because they are unhappy. Marriages don’t break up because one of the parties feel that he or she can do better without the other partner; they break up because they don’t experience the same level of commitment from the other person.
So if we then commit to something; what do we get?
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. The Bible 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
We don’t have to look for it – once you are committed to something – it is simply there.
“The Rose” – written by Amanda McBroom and sung by Bette Midler
Some say love, it is a river
that drowns the tender reed.
Some say love, it is a razor
that leaves your soul to bleed.
Some say love, it is a hunger,
an endless aching need.
I say love, it is a flower,
and you its only seed.
It’s the heart afraid of breaking
that never learns to dance.
It’s the dream afraid of waking
that never takes the chance.
It’s the one who won’t be taken,
who cannot seem to give,
and the soul afraid of dyin’
that never learns to live.
When the night has been too lonely
and the road has been to long,
and you think that love is only
for the lucky and the strong,
just remember in the winter
far beneath the bitter snows
lies the seed that with the sun’s love
in the spring becomes the rose.
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