I have to admit that I was a bit daring when I posted it. Most of the areas where I asked people to comment on it resided within formal management disciplines. They were not happy.
Most of the responses honed in on the unconditional requirement to truly experience and extend love, and instinctively eliminated lust and attraction in favour attachment.
Inter-personal management (relationships) do not have to contain any one of these specific or notorious type casts (the pictures) to be unsatisfying or undesirable.
If we evaluate any relationship we will notice that the absence of TRUST causes significant problems. One of the first symptoms that I have observed is that the un-trusted (untrustworthy) person(s) is under-estimated, under-valued and socially ousted. This has significant negative effects on the “recipient” of the treatment. [Please leave comments with other examples]
When CARE is not available in abundance to the people around us, they become dehumanized as their time, external commitments and responsibilities become less important. For some reason they are not deemed to hold the same station in life as the person that lacks care. [Please leave comments with examples]
I have found this to be upside down or inside out, as the person that lacks (does not have) love, trust, attachment, care is not the one that suffers.
Now for the harsh one – LOVE.
Where can we “allow” love to enter into our lives? Can we love our friends, extended family, team mates, colleagues, class mates, bosses, assistants – what about your neighbour (or his wife).
How far does it extend?
What is acceptable?
In my mind the real answer is not simple.
Charity begins at home.
But what do we do when someone treats us in an inappropriate or unacceptable manner?
Are we indirectly responsible for how people treat us?
YES WE ARE.
One of the most interesting things I have encountered in the last few months revolves around communication. Did you know that less than 10% of inter person communication occurs verbally? So here is your challenge…..
Show everybody around you what it means to be loving, caring, trusting and empathetic. If you absolutely must and only as a last resort, you can use words too.
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions” – Dali Lama
Remember I love you…..
Please comment on this……